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Anger Management Tips and Tricks

Anger is a normal, and even healthy, emotion when dealt with constructively. Uncontrolled anger on the other hand can have a negative effect on your state of mind, health as well as on your relationships.  Anger management can teach you to control your temper so that you can remain composed, instead of flying off the handle at the smallest trigger. If you lose your temper easily, anger management can give you the tools you need to control your temper, so that angry outbursts don’t overtake your life.

Understand your Anger

The key to anger management is to understand the root of your anger. Anger, as an emotion, is neither a negative nor a positive emotion. It is how you use anger, and the effect that it has on those around you that determines the value of the emotion. With the help of a psychologist you can determine the source of your anger so that you can learn to control and master your anger through anger management techniques. Once you start successfully employing anger management techniques, you will see the positive influence that controlling your anger has on your relationships, mental state, and life in general.

Some Myths and Facts about Anger

Myths:

  • It’s healthy to vent your anger
  • Anger management is a synonym for anger suppression
  • Anger isn’t something you can control
  • Because of your anger people respect you

Facts:

  • While you shouldn’t supress your anger, venting is no better. Constructive use of your anger is optimal.
  • Anger management is about teaching you the skills to experience anger and express it in a constructive manner.
  • While you can’t control a situation, you can control how you respond to it.
  • Power doesn’t come from anger, but from communicating in a respectful manner.

Tips for Anger Management:

  1. The old lesson, “think before you speak” is the first thing you need to think of when you feel your anger rising. If you speak in anger, you are likely to regret it. Take a moment t gather your thoughts before reacting to a situation.
  2. Once you have thought about the situation, express your concerns in a factual and non-emotional way, so as not to hurt others.
  3. If possible, when you feel your anger rising, take part in some form of physical activity that will help you channel you anger and release endorphins.
  4. Practice whatever kind of relaxation skill works for you. Take deep breaths, say an affirmation, write in your diary or do some yoga.
  5. Every day take a few short moments throughout the day to centre yourself. When you are centred, you are more likely to respond calmly to stressful situations.
  6. Laugh it off! Lighten up a stressful situation by using humour. Be careful not to be sarcastic though, as this may land up hurting someone’s feelings.
  7. Learn when to seek help. A therapist can give you anger management tips specific to you, so that you are best prepared to deal with stressful situations.

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